Meaning of friendship

Today, I prepare to buy something for my friends, I just thinking what they like...imagine their face full of smile and laugh when they  get surprise from me...

 I really lucky have many friends, but I still afraid with friendship....

I write on email,my status in fb or twitter how i miss my friends....but suddenly like nightmare I feel sad. When I meet them all,it's mean time to say goodbye....

I've been disappointed with some people in the past that ever offer me "friendship" but actually they stub me in behind,laughed on my pain. After that, I never believe others even they said they will be my bestfriend. but never mind, because of that I  learn something, never have few bestfriend, you must have a lot so they can't hurt you again.

This pain make me become skeptic person,. One thing  I really regret in  my farewell party with my classroom in university, I said to them " you all only use me to listen your problem,but you never care with me, I just your trash can", at that time, I just want they hate me. So I can said to myself you never have bestfriends, they just use you. Unfortunately, they  didn't, they still care with me...it's so blessing  that your friends can forgive you...

This year is really hard for me, after depression from a love I lost, I try healing my self. I still can't accept my lost,blame everything, even until now hatred that remains in my heart...

Allah SWT always know what the best for me, I thought I only find true friendship but it's more than that, I found FAMILY.

 

Really amazing if you can share sad experiences with your friends, asking them to tell the "world" about your lost cause you never able to speak about it again. Or someone, you just meet, can defend and accept all your boss's nagging because of your absence, someone teach you their local language, so you can say  "Abari, ¡Hola, hej, 您好, ( Ijust forgot Cambodia and Vietnam Laguages)", someone can protect you from bad dog, or someone who remove your tears when you cry, or maybe bring your heavy bags so you can smile again. 

You might be become bestfriends because of some accidentally moment  such as have lost experience together, have same goal to success (reach scholarship), have kidnap experience because they prepare special farewell  party for you or have similar favorite songs (Latin,classic),and have same hobby (eat and traveling)....

but one thing I learn, best friends not only you can find in sad time or lost time, but the most important thing you can share happiness with them. 

I remember  one of my brother (he more than bestfriend for me) told me " The niceness is often short but not a flash in the pan. Imagining maybe is the original meaning of niceness. So we can adjust ourselves for the pleasant".

I still don't know what the meaning of friendship, cause now I just know the meaning of family.......

TO BE CONTINUE

Wageningen, kota yang dihancurkan NAZI

Wageningen,kota kecil di Belanda yang indah. Meski tidak ada puri karena dihancurkan NAZI tapi Wageningen tetap indah dengan semak belukar "buatan"nya. Yah buatan,rumput2x itu sengaja ditanam,bukan hanya ditanah lapang,hampir seluruh atap rumah dan bangunan ditanami rumput. Inilah yang membuat saya sangat kagum dengan pemerintah dan masyarakat Belanda.

Foto diatas merupakan puing-puing kastil yang sudah diratakan tentara NAZI. Tidak ada lagi yang tersisa di Wageningen,semua bangunan telah diratakan dan penduduk asli pindah ke daerah lain. Banyak perubahan yang terjadi pada Wageningen sebelum dan sesudah perang.

Kembali ke rumput buatan, atap-atap rumah dan gedung yang kosong diberi artificial soil. Jika teknologi ini diterapkan di Indonesia khususnya kota2x besar seperti Jakarta,pasti udara jauh lebih bersih dan mengurangi polusi.
Bisa dibayangkan adem sekali tinggal dirumah dengan atap rumput tapi sempat juga terbesit dibenak saya, "bagaimana kalo cacing-cacing juga pada betah tinggal di atap rumahnya dan tiba-tiba berjuntai kalo lagi hujan...hiiiiiii..."

Just kidding..it's never happen,it's artificial soil,kayaknya cacing enggak akan betah ato kudu disemprot pestisida buat mastiin steril..hahahhahaha
Selain rumah, rumput buatan juga ditanam diatas atap mall dan gedung-gedung perkantoran. Bahkan,  rumput buatan ini ditanam diatas basement tempat parkir yang bisa difungsikan sebagai lapangan bola. Selain udara sehat pegawai professional atau pengunjung mall bisa sehat, bekerja atau belanja sambil olahraga dilapangan atap.

Schiphol,amazing airport

Perjalanan pertama ke Eropa,penuh kepanikan dengan cerita harus berlari2x selama transit di Malaysia dan petugas India yang super cuek ketika ditanya. Untunglah ada TKI yang dengan baik hati mengantarku diruang tunggu...senang sekali bertemu dengan orang Indonesia di negara asing.
Tiba di Schiphol pukul 06.00 pagi,dinginnya luar biasa,dan sekali lagi kebingungan mencari cara menuju Wageningen (sembari berdoa semoga ketemu orang Indonesia lagi)...
Menuju ketempat pembelian tiket,agak frustasi menggunakan mesin pembelian tiket,ditolak terus..lalu berputar-putar mencari loket penjualan tiket dan berhasil setelah 5 kali bolak-balik. Inilah jeleknya kalo melakukan perjalanan seorang diri,jadi bingung sendiri tapi setidaknya dapat banyak pengalaman berharga....

sampe di loket ternyata aku salah spelling dan sampe harus ditulis baru ngerti tuch petugas. Sambil berjalan was2x menuju kereta api,aku malah mendengar ada orang bicara bahasa Indonesia. Walah bahagia benar,cepat2x deh lari menuju sekelompok orang yang untungnya sama2x menuju Wageningen. And the Journey Begin.....